Hey reader. Wow. First post jitters!

Let’s talk about God…and men. First, let me repeat what I’m sure has been told to you before. Trust that God’s timing is always perfect and pay attention to what the Holy Spirit is telling you. I am willing to bet that God is working on you and your heart, making sure that you are prepared to be the godly wife that your husband will need you to be. 

I have not always walked that straight and narrow path. I made the mistake of thinking that I was always prepared and I just needed the right man to “tame” me and reel me in from the wild, but still tell me I’m beautiful and let me have fun. Until then, I was free to live up the single life of partying, bars, and flirtatious exchanges. Sounds simple enough, right? Wrong. I got it so wrong for eight years – basically all of my twenties. I didn’t need a man to hold my heart the correct way so that I would want to listen to him. God already held my heart; God still holds my heart. I wasn’t heeding to the gentle warnings and convictions of the Holy Spirit. I wasn’t listening to the call to be more Christ-like, to be set apart. I wasn’t diligent in my faith.

Here is a brief background as to why this subject is so dear to my heart. I got engaged. Soon after my engagement in 2021, it dawned on me that I had no idea what my marriage was going to look like. I didn’t even know what kind of wife I was going to be. So with a little nudge from the Holy Spirit, I started studying what God’s word says about women and marriage. I was committed to preparing my heart for spending the rest of my life with my fiancé. A divinely inspired invitation to read Let the Women Be Women by Chris Mueller revealed God’s calling for me to realize that so many women today are struggling with their identity — even identity in Christ. Following my convictions, I decided to lean into God’s Word and allow Him to place this desire in my heart: to offer a graceful perspective on God’s design for His creation.

By the way, our wedding was scheduled for early March, 2023. Christmas weekend before our wedding, it was called off. Then, just before Valentine’s Day the engagement was called off, and well you can figure out the rest. In April, I accepted a job in Arizona and, after six years of living in the beautiful and warm heartland of Kansas, I packed up my house, car, dog and cat, and drove west. My mother came along for the ride. This story doesn’t have a “happily ever after” yet, but in my time of healing I am learning so much about the character of God and how He reveals Himself to us daily.

If you made it this far, know that I am still committed to preparing my heart for a Christ-centered marriage and, ultimately, a Christ-filled life; and my hope is to encourage other women in a similar journey. Save my page to your favorites bar, subscribe to my email list for updates, or follow me on socials. Let’s walk through scripture together.

For now, I leave you to resonate with a word from the apostle Paul in one of his letters to Timothy: “Be diligent to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who doesn’t need to be ashamed, correctly teaching the word of truth” 2 Timothy 2:15

Go be diligent.